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Online Sex Coaching and Erotic Healing for Gay Men Worldwide
You don't need to be in London to do this work.
I work with gay, bi, queer and trans men all over the world through secure video call. Whether you're in New York, Sydney, Berlin, São Paulo or a small town where finding a somatic sex therapist who understands gay men feels impossible, this work is available to you.
Many of my most transformative client relationships have been online. The depth, the intimacy, the breakthroughs. They happen through a screen with the same power as they do in person. The work lives in your body, your breath, your nervous system and your erotic energy. All of that travels with you wherever you are.
What Works Online…
❋ Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy is one of the most effective online modalities. You're in your own space, in your own environment, which often helps you relax more deeply than sitting in an unfamiliar studio. We access and reprogram the subconscious beliefs driving your sexual patterns, your shame, your performance anxiety, your compulsive behaviours. All of this works beautifully through video.
❋ Guided Self-Pleasure
This is where online sessions offer something uniquely powerful. I coach you through Taoist erotic self-pleasure practices, conscious masturbation techniques, arousal scale work and full-body energy circulation. You practise in real time with live guidance, feedback and support. These sessions directly address premature ejaculation, erectile difficulties, numbness, compulsive masturbation patterns and the disconnection between arousal and presence.
❋ Somatic Sex Coaching
I guide you through body-based practices in real time. Breathwork, nervous system regulation, conscious self-touch, pelvic floor awareness and arousal mapping. You follow my guidance in your own body while I observe, coach and respond to what's happening for you. Many men find that working somatically in the privacy of their own home allows them to go deeper faster because they feel safer and less self-conscious.
❋ Core Erotic Theme Work
We work together to decode your fantasies, kinks, porn patterns and erotic desires using Jack Morin's framework. Through guided enquiry, journalling and somatic awareness, you discover the deeper psychological meaning beneath your sexual patterns and learn to work with your erotic energy as a tool for healing and self-understanding.
❋ Erotic Energy Work
Breath-based practices for building, circulating and directing sexual energy through your body. These Taoist-inspired techniques teach you to experience arousal as a full-body, expansive state rather than a concentrated, genital rush towards ejaculation. Profoundly effective online because the practice happens entirely within your own body.
What Online Sessions Look Like
Sessions run for 60 to 120 minutes via Zoom or a secure video platform of your choice.
Before your first session, we'll have a free Connection Call (15 to 20 minutes) where we talk about what you're experiencing, what you want to work on and whether this approach feels right for you.
From there, sessions are tailored entirely to your needs. Some men come for a single focused session on a specific issue. Others commit to a structured programme over weeks or months for deeper transformation.
A typical session might include a check-in conversation about what's alive for you, followed by a hypnotherapy piece to access subconscious material, followed by a guided somatic practice where you work with your body in real time. Or it might be entirely body-based, with me coaching you through a breathwork and self-pleasure practice for the full session. Every session is different because every man brings something different.
You'll need a private space where you feel comfortable and won't be interrupted. A good internet connection. And a willingness to be honest about what's going on for you.
Online Sessions Help With
Sexual patterns and compulsive behaviour.
Breaking cycles with porn, apps, hookups and masturbation habits that feel out of control. Understanding what's driving the compulsion at a nervous system level and building new pathways.
Erectile difficulties and performance anxiety.
Retraining your body's relationship with arousal through breathwork, nervous system regulation and Taoist erotic practices. Addressing the subconscious beliefs that trigger performance anxiety through hypnotherapy.
Premature ejaculation.
Learning to use breath, sound, movement and the arousal scale to develop genuine, embodied control over your ejaculatory response. Guided self-pleasure practices that retrain the patterns most men have been running since adolescence.
Sexual shame and internalised homophobia.
Accessing and reprogramming the deep beliefs about gay sex, desire and identity that were installed in childhood. Creating a new relationship with your sexuality rooted in celebration rather than apology.
Intimacy and connection.
Understanding why closeness feels threatening and learning to regulate your nervous system so that vulnerability becomes possible. Developing communication skills for asking for what you want in bed and in relationships.
Self-pleasure transformation.
Moving from fast, mechanical, porn-driven masturbation into a conscious, nourishing, full-body erotic practice. Learning Taoist techniques that expand your capacity for pleasure and presence.
Kink and fantasy exploration.
Decoding your Core Erotic Theme. Understanding what your desires are trying to tell you. Learning to work with your fantasies as tools for self-knowledge rather than sources of shame.
What We Can Not Do
I believe in being honest about the boundaries of this work. Online sessions do not include hands-on bodywork. If you're specifically seeking somatic erotic bodywork with direct touch (Taoist erotic massage, genital mapping, Body Poem with physical contact), that requires an in-person session at my studio in Hackney, East London.
Everything else, the hypnotherapy, the coaching, the breathwork, the guided self-pleasure, the Core Erotic Theme work, the nervous system regulation, works powerfully online. Many men start with online sessions and then travel to London for an in-person bodywork session when they're ready. Others work entirely online and experience profound transformation without ever setting foot in my studio.
Time ZonesI work flexibly across time zones. My standard availability is 11am to 8pm UK time (GMT/BST), and I regularly adjust for clients in North America, Europe, Australia, the Middle East and Asia.
We'll find a time that works for both of us.
Self-Study Programs
1:1 Sex Coaching and Hypnotherapy
A tailored programme of sessions over weeks or months combining hypnotherapy, somatic coaching and erotic energy work through the Erotic Evolution Method. The deepest, most personalised work I offer.
Erotic Evolution 12-Week Group Programme
A guided group journey for gay men worldwide. Weekly Zoom sessions, guided erotic ceremonies, Core Erotic Theme deep dives, intimacy journalling and community. All online. All transformative.
Masturbation Mastery
A 7-day self-guided course with personal coaching support via email. Learn Taoist erotic techniques and conscious self-pleasure practices from anywhere in the world.
Ready to Begin?
Wherever you are in the world, the starting point is the same. A free Connection Call where we talk openly about what you're experiencing and how I can help.
An honest conversation about what's possible.