The Erotic Awakening
What if your sex life could be better than it’s ever been?
“I’m finally having the sex I’ve always fantasised about but didn’t think was actually possible. My sexual confidence is so much better. I barely feel the need to use porn anymore because I’m getting so much from the self-pleasure techniques Gary teaches”
Some of the many reasons gay men are joining Erotic Awakening:
Sex has started to feel predictable.
You're bored with the same old patterns, relying on porn or scrolling the apps when you're horny, wondering why it doesn’t do it for you anymore.
Perhaps you want to feel more confident in bed, more comfortable in your body, more turned on and able to enjoy sex without getting stuck in your head.
Or maybe there's nothing particularly wrong with your sex life but you just know there's more you'd like to explore.
Erotic Awakening is an 8-week group online programme for gay, bi, queer and questioning men who want to understand themselves better sexually and discover what actually feels good for them.
I'll teach you practical ways, step-by-step, to change the way you experience sex, masturbation, pleasure, desire and your own body.
Your sex life isn't fixed, stuck or broken.
There's so much more waiting for you on your Erotic Awakening journey
But first of all, I understand where you’re at…
Maybe you're wondering...
“Where the fuck do I even begin?”
“Is this actually going to help with my particular struggles?”
“What if I'm too old for this?”
“What if I'm too inexperienced?”
“I'm busy. Am I actually going to have time to do it?”
“I've tried loads of things before. What makes this different?”
“Can I really change the way I experience sex and self-pleasure?”
Take a breath.
You don't need to have all the answers before you start.
That's what the 8 weeks are for.
I'll guide you through it step by step, with simple practices you can actually fit into your life…
Take a breath my friend,
I’ve got ya back! Read on…
What is Erotic Awakening?
It is an 8-week group online guided programme for gay, bi, queer and questioning men who want to have better sex, feel more confident sexually and discover more pleasure in their bodies.
You'll explore masturbation, desire, fantasies, kink, touch, arousal, anal pleasure, communication and the ways your thoughts and habits affect your sex life.
You'll be given practical things to learn and do every week, so you're learning through actually doing rather than sitting there listening to someone talk a bunch of nice sounding theory that doesn’t actually help you change!
And you don't need to be a certain type of gay man to belong here.
You can be single or partnered. Top, bottom or vers. Kinky, vanilla or somewhere in between. In your 20s or 90s (a gay man in his 70s got his erections back after years of issues by following my program!) Sexually experienced or completely new to this kind of work.
You just need to be curious about having a better sex life.
Remember; if you want something different, then you have to do something different!
Imagine where you could be in just 8 weeks from now...
More confident in the bedroom, with sex and erotic connection.
Know more about what actually turns you on, how to ask for it, receive it and give please back in equal measure.
Enjoy amazing masturbation sessions in a completely different way.
More electric sensation and horny pleasure throughout your body.
Get out of your head and into the moment when you have sex with other men.
Connect and express your fantasies and kinks with less shame and embarrassment, instead with more curiosity and playfulness.
So much more comfortable giving and receiving pleasure.
Understand your own sexual patterns, what’s holding you back and what to do about it.
A clearer idea of the sex you actually want and learn the skills to actually go about getting it.
And you could have a whole new set of sexual adventures to explore with yourself, a partner or other men.
“I genuinely didn't expect to learn how to wank properly in my late 40s! And I certainly wasn't expecting to start having the best sex of my life. I'm so grateful to this program” - Leigh
What Past Students Are Saying
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"When I first saw this course I thought I was too old and it was too late for me. I'm 71. Boy was I wrong. My libido is switched right on after just a few weeks of these amazing practices, Gary's guidance and the support from the community calls. What an experience!"
— David
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"This is one of the best investments I've made in a long time. I thought I couldn't afford it at first. But having gone through it, I realise I couldn't afford NOT to do it. Especially the way I masturbate and self pleasure now. Totally orgasmic"
— Neri
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"Gary guides you every step of the way, telling you what to do each day and each week. It's laid out so well and easy to follow. I run my own business and only spent about 5-10 minutes a day doing the practices! It really works. The Wake Up Your Wank module alone was a game changer for me"
— Peter
Your sexual confidence, fully body erotic pleasure and multi-orgasmic experience is as simple as 1, 2, 3…
The Erotic Awakening Method
Over eight weeks, we'll work through 3 connected areas of your sexuality:
1. Sexual Somatics
Your sexual transformation starts with self-pleasure and the way you touch yourself.
Learn new ways to experience touch, masturbation, arousal, pleasure and erotic sensation throughout your body.
You'll discover how much more pleasure is available when you're not focused on the same repetitive way of doing things every time you have sex or masturbate.
2. Sexual Subconscious
Explore the thoughts, beliefs and patterns that affect how you experience yourself as a sexual man. Clear the stories that hold you back from your confidence and your best sex.
You'll start to understand what's been getting in the way of confidence, pleasure and enjoyment, and learn practical ways to change those patterns from the inside.
3. Erotic Re-Wiring
Explore your fantasies, turn-ons and sexual imagination with curiosity and playfulness rather than shame and embarrassment.
You'll get clearer about what you actually want and desire and which fantasies should stay in your head and which ones you should take to the bed!
Body. Mind. Desire.
Three pieces of the erotic puzzle, eight weeks, and one completely different relationship with your sex life.
The Erotic Awakening
Is Right For You If…
You're bored with the same old sex and masturbation routines.
You want to enjoy sex so much more than you currently do.
You want to feel more confident in bed.
You want to understand what actually turns you on.
You want to explore fantasies or kinks you've been curious about.
You want to feel more comfortable in your body.
You find yourself getting stuck in your head during sex.
You struggle to ask for what you want.
You want to become better at giving and receiving pleasure.
You want to experience more sensation throughout your body.
You want to change some of the habits around porn, masturbation or apps that aren't really serving you anymore.
Or you simply have a feeling that your sex life could be so much better than it is.
If any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
What's involved?
Over eight weeks, you'll work through eight different parts of your sexuality. You’ll follow the guidance in the online portal and get extra coaching and connection with the community on our weekly Zoom calls over 8 weeks.
Each week you'll have practical exercises, guidance and things to explore in your own time.
You don't need hours every day. Some practices take just a few minutes. Others are designed to give you time and space to deeply explore.
Go at your own pace, come back to things when you need to, and use the eight weeks to discover what actually works for you.
Here’s Where We’re Going
Every week builds on the one before it, giving you new things to explore, practise and experience in your own body and sex life.
Erotic Awakening
- Get clear on where you are, what’s holding you back and what you need to move forward.
- Create a powerful vision for who you are becoming as a sexual and erotic man.
- Wake Up Your Wank: start to transform the way you masturbate for more intense pleasure.
Masturbation Mastery
- A whole new set of strokes, grips and rhythms, so your wank stops being the same four minutes you’ve been doing your whole life.
- Learn to build and ride your arousal instead of racing to the finish, so you last longer and feel a hell of a lot more pleasure.
- Turn your wank into the best twenty minutes of your day, full body, deeply pleasurable, and worth looking forward to.
Core Erotic Themes
- Finally understand what your fantasies and turn-ons are actually telling you and stop treating them like something to hide.
- Work out what belongs in your head and what you want to bring into your bed, so you can explore your kinks consciously instead of ridden with shame.
- Drop the shame that’s been sitting under your desire for years, and start enjoying your sexual imagination as the pleasure playground it was always meant to be.
Rest & Digest
Erotic Pleasure Dancing
- Learn the three ingredients behind every intense sexual experience, breath, sound and movement, and why most men are gripped, silent and still, missing out on all of it.
- Move pleasure out of just your cock and through your whole body, so a good feeling becomes a full-body wave instead of something that stops at your groin.
- Wake up the parts of you that have been offline for years, your nipples, chest, armpits, spine, thighs and feet, and find sensitivity you never knew you had.
Anal Awakening
- Learn to touch, massage and finger your own hole properly, so you discover what it actually likes instead of guessing or gritting your teeth.
- Anal mapping and breathing techniques that help you open, relax and feel real pleasure back there, whether you’re a bottom, a top who’s curious, or somewhere in between.
- Turn a part of your body you’ve ignored, feared or written off into one of the most heavenly things you own.
The Wheel of Consent
- Get the words out of your mouth, so you can tell a man exactly what you want, how you want it, and stop leaving your pleasure to guesswork.
- Learn Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, the clearest map there is for giving and receiving pleasure in equal measure.
- A playbook of touch and intimacy games to bring into hookups, dates and long-term relationships, with a solo version for every single one too.
Weaving It All Together
- Bring the whole eight weeks into one final guided erotic ceremony, where everything you’ve learned comes together in your body.
- Work out exactly what your ongoing practice looks like, so this keeps growing long after the course ends rather than fading out.
- Look back at where you started and see how far you’ve come, then step forward as the sexually confident man you’ve become.
Everything You Get
Eight weeks of guided learning, practical exploration, live support, community and tools to help you actually put everything into practice.
Self Pleasure Portal App
Download it straight to your phone and have your practices, exercises and next steps right there whenever you need them. No searching through emails. No guessing what to do next.
8 Guided Modules
Explore masturbation, pleasure, desire, fantasies, kink, touch, communication, anal pleasure and more through practical guided experiences.
All Your Resources
- Video instructions
- PDF guides and journals
- Guided meditations and hypnosis
- Self Pleasure Portal App
The Live Experience
8 Weekly Zoom Calls With Me
Every week we'll come together live to go deeper into the theme, talk about what you're experiencing, answer your questions and give you guidance as you move through the programme.
Private WhatsApp Community
A private space where we share wins, ask questions, encourage each other and celebrate what's changing as you move through the eight weeks together.
Real men. Real experiences.
Erotic Awakening has now been experienced by over 50 men.
All different ages, backgrounds and stages of life, but they all came looking for something more from their sex lives.
Here's what some of them have to say from the last group…
Why me?
Hi, I’m Gary…
I've spent years exploring sexuality, pleasure, relationships, intimacy and the erotic body and what actually helps gay men change the way they experience sex.
I've trained in sexological bodywork, somatic sexology, hypnotherapy and other approaches to sexuality and personal development.
But the most important part of my work is what I've learned from actually doing it, living it, and going through the fires of my own painful sex addiction, compulsive behaviour and frustrating sex.
I've worked with men privately, created communities, facilitated workshops and worked with dozens of men through The Erotic Awakening program.
I've seen the same patterns come up again and again:
Men who know what they “should” be doing sexually but still don't feel confident to actually do it.
Men who can get hugely turned on and honey but struggle to stay present and get stuck in their heads.
Men who want to explore something new and exciting but don't know how or where to start!
Men who have spent years thinking something is wrong with them when actually nobody ever taught them how to understand their own sexuality.
That's why I created Erotic Awakening. I wanted to give you a practical and easy place to start.
This isn't another course about sex…
You're not going to spend eight weeks being told what you should be doing in bed, a bunch of nice sounding theory that does’t move the needle forward.
You're going to experiment, play, get curious, notice and try things new things.
You’re to play, explore and discover what works for you and your unique body.
Some of the practices might feel familiar. Some might feel completely new. Some might challenge you. And some will unlock pleasure you never knew possible!
Erotic Awakening is designed to help you actually experience change in your sex life, rather than simply learn more information.
You don't need hours a day.
You're busy. You have work. Relationships. Friends. Life.
Erotic Awakening is designed for the busy man, not to give you another massive to-do list.
Many of the practices can be done in just a few minutes. You actually get to choose how long too!
One past participant, who runs his own business, told me he was spending around 5–10 minutes a day on the practices.
The point isn't to cram more into your life. It's to give you practical things you can actually use and create change.
Ready for your Erotic Awakening?
Eight weeks.
A practical way forward.
Step by step guidance from me.
A supportive community of other men exploring their sexuality.
And a chance to discover what might be possible when you start approaching your sex life in a completely different way.
