Erotic
Awakening
An 8-week guided sexual healing programme for GBTQ+ men ready to step into the full sexual being you know you are inside.
Enrol NowYou Want Better Sex, More Enjoyable Self Pleasure, And To Step Into Your Sexual Confidence.
I've Got The Key To:
- To discover what your body is truly capable of sexually.
- To feel pleasure spread through your whole body, not stay stuck in one place.
- Bigger, more intense, more transcendent orgasms.
- To know exactly what turns you on, and ask for it without shame.
- Deeper intimacy and real connection.
- To feel sexually confident in your own skin.
- To finally meet the sexual man you've been carrying inside you for years.
You've tried therapy, books, apps, courses. Some of it helped. But none of it actually solved the problem. That's because most of what you've tried works on the wrong things. Your sex life doesn't change through thinking about it or carrying on talking about it. It changes through doing something different with your behaviour, your body, your breath, your touch, your nervous system, your attention, your arousal and the way you talk to yourself inside.
What's different about this is that it works in the right places and on the right parts of you. Eight weeks of guided practice that retrains how your body experiences pleasure. Takes you out of performance mode. Lets you discover what your body is capable of when shame stops running the show. The same work I've been doing one-to-one with men for ten years, built as a home practice you can do at your own pace.
Ben came to me in his fifties after a twenty-year marriage ended. He'd never been with anyone other than his ex-husband since his twenties. An older gay man not living his erotic and sexual vibrancy. By the end of our work, Ben was dating, fully present, no erectile or ejaculatory difficulties, exploring his fantasies and kinks consciously and joyfully. He told me he felt like he was finally living the life he was always meant to live.
Hear From Previous Participants
When I first saw this course I thought I was too old and it was too late for me. Boy was I wrong. My libido is switched right on after just a few weeks of these amazing practices, Gary's guidance and the support from the community calls. What an experience!
Founding Cohort Member
This was one of the best investments I've made in a long time. I thought I couldn't afford it at first. But having gone through it, I realise I couldn't afford NOT to do it. Especially the way I masturbate and self pleasure now. Totally orgasmic!
Founding Cohort Member
More words from the men who went first are further down the page.
Hi, I'm Gary.
I've worked with many gay men around sex, intimacy and erotic connection. As a hypnotherapist, sex therapist and sexological bodyworker, I built Erotic Awakening because I keep meeting the same kind of men. Kind, self-aware, intelligent, with a deep knowing that there is more to their sex life than what they currently experience. And many of them carrying the same struggle for years, with no help out there to address their specific needs as gay men.
So I created Erotic Awakening for the men who want more, without needing to start with expensive one-to-one work. This is my years of practice and experience, and my full, growing library of guided practices, step-by-step, delivered as a home practice you move through at your own pace, with Zoom community connection calls to support you in real time too.
By the end of eight weeks, you'll know yourself sexually in a way most men never do. You'll have a practice that nourishes you sexually, and you'll be living differently in your body, your dating life, your sex and your relationships.
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Let's be honest about why you're here.
- Your sex life has gone flat, or feels smaller than the man you sense you could be.
- You've spent years on Grindr feeling emptier than ever.
- Your long-term relationship has become routine and you've forgotten what hot, alive sex feels like.
- Your masturbation has become boring, rushed, the same as it's always been.
- There are things you want to experience sexually and you've never known how. Anal pleasure? Sensitive, awakened nipples? Full body orgasms? It's all possible.
- You've never felt the full sexual being inside you truly allowed to live.
This course is for you.
Eight weeks. Eight modules. A guided home practice you can do in your own time, with audio meditations, instructional videos, journalling reflections and sexual and erotic embodiment exercises. Delivered through a private members area you can access any time, on phone, tablet or laptop.
By the end of it, you will have walked through every one of the Five Erotic Awakenings my clients move through in one-to-one work. You will know yourself sexually in a way you have never known yourself before.
"But is it for me?"
The men I work with span from their 20s to their 80s. Single, partnered, kinky, vanilla, tops, bottoms, vers. New to gay life, decades into it. The course meets you where you are. The only requirement is wanting to discover who you are sexually and erotically.
The Real, Lived Results
- Discovering what your body is capable of sexually, in ways you didn't know were possible.
- Full body pleasure that spreads from head to toe, instead of staying stuck in your cock.
- Bigger, more intense, more beautiful orgasms that ripple through your whole body.
- Ecstatic states of pleasure that men in tantric traditions have known for thousands of years.
- Sexual confidence and erotic power you can feel in your chest, your cock, the way you walk.
- Knowing exactly what turns you on, asking for it without shame, receiving it fully.
- Giving deeper pleasure to other men, listening with your whole body, watching them come undone.
- Deeper intimacy and connection with yourself and with the men you choose.
- Conscious erotic communication that transforms hookups, dates and long-term partnerships.
- Masturbation as a cosmic, ecstatic, sensual practice instead of a rushed habit.
- Exploring your kinks and fantasies as gateways into self-discovery, safely and consciously.
- Stronger, harder, longer lasting erections, and control over your ejaculation, as side benefits of the bigger work.
- Freedom from compulsive scrolling, mindless porn use, and crashed-out shame sex.
- A daily erotic practice that nourishes you, energises you, changes how you live.
- Presence, aliveness, depth, freedom, in your sexual being and your whole life.
For less than a coffee and a croissant a day, you could be living all of this.
What's Inside The Eight Weeks
A complete sequenced journey through the five awakenings, designed to land in your body week by week.
Opening Your Erotic Portal
Your first contact with your erotic self. We meet your body, your desire and your pleasure with fresh eyes, wake up the way you touch yourself, and begin gently and with care.
Masturbation Mastery
Retraining how you touch yourself for far deeper pleasure and sensitivity. Slow it down, break the rushed autopilot, and let your self pleasure become the most alive part of your day.
Core Erotic Themes
Mapping the patterns underneath your desire, your fantasies and your porn. See what your turn-ons really reveal, let the shame fall away, and let your erotic imagination start serving you.
Rest, Digest & Reflect
A week to slow right down and let the work settle into your body, with a guided hypnosis to take you deeper into your own erotic power. Doing less, on purpose, is part of the practice.
Erotic Pleasure Dancing
Breath, voice and movement, the living ingredients of all erotic energy. Erotic breathwork, sound and movement practices, plus nipple and chest awakening and sensual spiralling, so pleasure moves through your whole body.
Anal Awakening
Meeting a part of your body most men never turn towards with any love. Consent-led, unhurried, step-by-step exploration to build trust, sensitivity and real pleasure, at your own pace. Learn how to massage and finger yourself and others.
Conscious Communication, Connection & Consent
Taking everything out into how you relate to another man. Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent, a playbook of connection, touch and intimacy games, and the skills that change every encounter, with a solo version of everything too.
Weaving It All Together
Integrating the whole journey into your life, your pleasure and your sense of yourself as a sexual man, with a final erotic ceremony and a practice to carry forward. By the end, this is the way you live.
"But do I have the time?"
I designed Erotic Awakening to fit around your busy life. The teachings are 10 to 15 minutes, the daily practices you set the timer for, anything from 5 to 45 minutes depending on your day. You spend more time scrolling on Grindr, Instagram or Facebook. You spend more time watching porn, or TV shows, or reading news articles. You spend more time on dates and hookups that go nowhere. Plus the course is yours forever, so if life gets busy you pause and pick it up later.
What You Receive
Step-by-step guided practices, so you always know exactly what to do at every step, from your very first self-touch to a whole new relationship with your sexual energy.
Step-By-Step Guided Practices
Nothing is left to guesswork. Every practice is broken down and guided, so you know exactly what to do, how to do it, and why. From gentle first self-touch, through erotic rewiring, to a whole new relationship with your sexual energy.
Breathwork & New Masturbation Techniques
Erotic breathwork to move and build your sexual energy, and a growing library of self-pleasure and masturbation practices that take you far beyond anything you learned on your own.
Sound & Movement Practices
Free up your voice, your body and your pleasure through guided sound and movement, the living ingredients of all erotic energy, so pleasure moves through your whole body.
Instructional Videos & Audio Meditations
Video guidance from me for every practice, explaining the why, the what, the how and the what-if. Plus guided audio meditations set to original music composed by me.
Journal Reflections
Beautifully crafted journal prompts for each week that take your practice deeper and capture your awakening in your own words as it unfolds.
8 Community Connection Calls
Fortnightly live Zoom gatherings across the journey, and the heart of this work for so many men. Share, be witnessed, ask anything, and awaken alongside a room of brothers walking the same path. You are never doing this alone.
A Private Brotherhood
A private community of gay men moving through this together, holding, cheering and supporting one another the whole way. The connection men build here is the thing they treasure most.
Lifetime Access
The course is yours to keep forever, including every future update and addition I make in the years to come. A living, breathing library of erotic awakening you return to for life.
The Self Pleasure Portal App
Your own conscious self pleasure app, yours to keep. A living deck of guided practices you carry in your pocket, ready whenever you want to drop into your body.
It holds practices from across the programme, plus a growing collection of new ones. When you want to explore but you're not sure where to start, you pull a card and let the Portal choose for you. Warm ups, breath, mindful masturbation, anal awakening, full body mapping and more.
Add it to your home screen and it lives on your phone like any other app. Your practice, in your pocket, for life.
You Recognise Yourself Here
- You sense there's a powerful sexual man inside you ready to fully live.
- You want to know what your body is capable of when shame stops running the show.
- You want sex that feels alive, deep, electric, not just functional.
- Sex with your partner has gone flat and you want to wake it back up.
- You're single, dating, and want to feel sexually confident in your skin.
- You've got fantasies and kinks that turn you on and shame you in equal measure.
- You want bigger, full body, mind-blowing orgasms that travel through your whole self.
- You want to know exactly what turns you on, ask for it, and receive it fully.
- You spend hours scrolling Grindr or porn and want to come home to your own body instead.
- You've tried therapy, courses, books, apps, and you're ready for something that actually shifts.
- You want a daily erotic practice that nourishes you, energises you, makes you feel alive.
- You're ready to do the work, in your own time, in your own home, with my voice as your guide.
What I've Heard From Almost Every Man
I want to be honest with you about something.
I spent years carrying my own sexual struggle in silence. Years of Grindr at 2am leaving me empty. Years of insight from therapy that gave me understanding but no change in my body. Years where my sex life felt smaller than the man I sensed I was supposed to be.
I lost those years. I can't get them back.
What I've heard from almost every man I've worked with, somewhere around the 4 week mark, when something has properly started to shift, is some version of the same sentence.
"I wish I'd done this years ago."
It's the sentence I hear from the 35-year-old who's been carrying ED since his twenties. The 50-year-old whose long-term relationship has been flat for a decade. The 65-year-old who came out late and is finally exploring what his body is capable of.
I'm not telling you this to push you. I'm telling you because it's the truth of this work. The men who do it wish they'd started sooner. The men who don't, carry on carrying it.
Whether you start now or later, the work is here when you're ready. I just don't want another year to pass without you having a way through.
Real Words From Real Men
Before working with Gary, I carried a lot of embedded gay shame, fear of intimacy and a long-standing anxiety around sex in general. I wasn't sure hypnotherapy and this somatic stuff could shift something so deep, but Gary's spontaneous, non-judgmental way of challenging my beliefs made it easy to trust the process. Those old narratives no longer fully run my life and I feel calmer, more open and far more accepting of myself. For anyone considering working with him, do it. This work has been transformative in ways I didn't expect.
Naro Velin
Wow, that was mind-blowing. I never knew I could experience such levels of physical pleasure. To be able to ask for exactly what I want was incredible. It's changed how I have sex with my partners for sure.
Paul
When I first saw this course I thought I was too old and it was too late for me. Boy was I wrong. My libido is switched right on after just a few weeks of these amazing practices, Gary's guidance and the support from the community calls. What an experience!
Founding Cohort Member
This was one of the best investments I've made in a long time. I thought I couldn't afford it at first. But having gone through it, I realise I couldn't afford NOT to do it. It's been a really powerful experience, especially the way I masturbate and self pleasure now. Totally orgasmic!
Founding Cohort Member
Gary guides you every step of the way, telling you what to do each day and each week. It's laid out so well and easy to follow. And most of all, it works! The Wake Up Your Wank module alone was a game changer for me.
Founding Cohort Member
This programme covers almost everything. Anal pleasure, masturbation mastery, even boundaries and communication with sex partners. It's really fantastic, brilliant value. And the Zoom calls have been amazing. I've made some friends for life.
Founding Cohort Member
Over 40 five-star Google reviews. Ten years of transformative work with men.
"But the price?"
£347 across eight weeks is around £6 a day. Less than a coffee and a croissant. Less than a few nights out in London. And the early-bird price is the lowest this will ever be, moving to £497 once the early-bird window closes.
£347 Early Bird · £497 After
The early-bird price is the lowest Erotic Awakening will ever be.
Enrol during the early-bird window and you come in at £347 instead of £497, a saving of £150. Places are limited, and the next journey after this one is months away.
The full eight-week journey. Every step-by-step guided practice, all materials, the 8 community connection calls, the private brotherhood, and lifetime access.
Prefer to spread the cost? An early-bird payment plan of 4 monthly payments of £90 is available below.
Enrol · £347 In FullSpread your early-bird enrolment across four monthly payments, so you can begin now and pay over time.
Early-Bird Price · Limited Places · Begins 7th September
When And How
Places are limited to keep the group intimate. The early-bird price of £347 is available until Monday 18th August, after which enrolment moves to £497. The next journey after this one will not run for several months.
You Are Invited
Wake up the sexual man inside you, on your own terms, in your own time, at your own pace, and alongside a room of brothers walking the same path.
Yes, I'm In · £347Early-bird price. £497 once the window closes.
Frequently Asked
When does the journey start?
Monday 7th September 2026. Modules unlock week by week through to Monday 26th October 2026, so the whole group moves through together.
How much time per week does it take?
However long you choose. The practices are flexible, so you decide how much time to give them each day, whether that's a few minutes or a longer, luxurious session. It's built to fit around busy lives, and the course is yours forever, so there is no pressure to keep up.
What if I fall behind?
The course is yours for life. You can move through it at the pace your life allows. The weekly unlock structure gives you rhythm, the lifetime access means there is no pressure.
Is a payment plan available?
Yes. You can pay in full at the early-bird price of £347, or spread the cost across 4 monthly payments of £90. Both options are on the enrolment section above.
Can I cancel after I enrol?
Enrolment is non-refundable once you have access to Module One. You are joining a small, intimate group, and your commitment is part of what makes the journey work for everyone in it. If you have questions before you enrol, email me directly and let's talk it through.
What if I miss this one?
The next journey after this one will not run for several months, and it will be at the full price of £497. This early-bird window is the best time to say yes, both for the price and for the place.
What are the community connection calls?
Fortnightly live Zoom gatherings across the eight weeks, and for many men the most treasured part of the whole journey. A space to share, be witnessed, ask anything, and awaken alongside other gay men walking the same path. You move through this together, never alone.
What if I want one-to-one work instead?
Book a free Chemistry Call with me to discuss the full Erotic Awakening one-to-one programme. Six months, twelve sessions, fortnightly, in person in Hackney or online worldwide.
With Love & Pleasure,