For Gay Men Ready to Transform Your Sex Life
Rewire Desire into Confidence, Pleasure & Power
Naro Velin
"Before working with Gary, I carried a lot of embedded gay shame, fear of intimacy and a long-standing anxiety around sex in general.
I wasn’t sure hypnotherapy and this somactic stuff could shift something so deep, but Gary’s spontaneous, non-judgmental way of challenging my beliefs made it easy to trust the process.
Those old narratives no longer fully run my life and I feel calmer, more open and far more accepting of myself.
Gary’s other events like Pleasure Medicine and Slow Dating+ have also genuinely changed how I connect with myself and others. For anyone considering working with him: do it.
This work has been transformative in ways I didn’t expect!”
Does this sound familiar?
If you’re a gay man caught in cycles with porn, apps or sexual behaviour that leave you drained or disconnected, your erotic wiring might simply be out of alignment…
And that misalignment can show up everywhere: emotionally, physically, energetically and even spiritually.
Maybe you notice yourself stuck in compulsive patterns with sex, porn or masturbation, feeling momentary relief but ultimately more depressed, anxious, stressed, flat, frustrated and unfulfilled.
Maybe your body’s starting to let you know something is off through challenges like erectile issues, premature ejaculation, numbness or a lack of real presence and sensation during sex.
Maybe you’ve lost your libido all together, or it’s in total overdrive trying to get it’s next hit.
Or maybe there’s a deeper, quieter, subtler voice whispering:
“There must be more to my erotic life than this”
I understand because I’ve been there.
For most of my life I lived inside those same loops of endless scrolling, the quick fix fucks, the validation highs followed by the depressing, exhausted crushing lows.
And it’s not that the apps, porn, sex clubs, masturbation, hook ups or sexual fantasies are wrong or bad. We celebrate sex positivity and erotic freedom! But when they start to control your connection instead of deepen it, then something has gone wrong.
Underneath it all, you know you’re capable of more: more potency, playfulness, passion, intimacy, joy, delight and fun.
But it’s like something keeps pulling you back into the same patterns, even after you promise yourself you’ll stop.
You try to change (and maybe you do) for a while. But then the cycle returns, and each time it does, the shame and helplessness intensifies.
Your sexual energy is working against you…
Well, there’s a way to finally listen. And evolve…
Hi, I’m Gary
Therapist & Somatic Sex Coach
For years, my life revolved around chasing the next hit of validation on Grindr, with porn, anonymous sex and the endless search for connection.
It left me exhausted, depressed, ashamed and disconnected from my own body, desires and control over my life.
When I hit rock bottom, I began a deep process of healing which involved learning to listen to my sexual energy instead of fighting it. I learned how to work with my erotic fantasies instead of denying them. And I cultivated communiction and connection practices that elevated and sexual experiences with myself and other men.
Through hypnotherapy, somatic sex practices and erotic energy work, I discovered that what I thought was addiction was actually unprocessed shame, trauma and unmet desire.
Now I help other gay men make the same transformation…
The Erotic Evolution
method
The Erotic Evolution Method is a unique, integrated approach to sexual healing that addresses your challenges from every angle, not just one.
You could talk to a therapist about your patterns.
You could work with a somatic practitioner on your body.
You could study with a tantric teacher to explore energy.
But why separate the mind, body and spirit when they’re designed to work together?
This method brings it all into one coherent process.
The Erotic Evolution Method ❊
Sexual Subconscious
Using Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy, we uncover and dissolve the subconscious blocks that limit your pleasure, confidence and connection.
You’ll meet the younger parts of you that learned to equate sex with shame, danger or rejection and gently reprogram those beliefs so your erotic energy can flow freely again.
01Sexual Somatics
Your body is where the real transformation happens.
Through nervous system regulation, mindful masturbation and conscious self-pleasure, you’ll rebuild sensitivity, presence and aliveness in your sexual experience.
You’ll learn to inhabit your body as an instrument of sensation not as something to perform with or escape from.
02Erotic Rewiring
Here we explore your erotic psyche, your fantasies, kinks and desires. We clear the shame and listen to them as messages from your deeper self.
You’ll learn to decode what turns you on, understand the needs beneath it and work with your sexual energy as a creative, healing force.
03This is what full-spectrum, integrated sexual evolution looks like:
Subconscious healing for the mind
Somatic embodiment for the body
Erotic rewiring for your sexual energy
It’s deep, safe, soulful work for gay men ready to move beyond their current story and step into erotic mastery, confidence and connection.
What The Erotic Evolution Method Can Help You With
Every man’s journey with sex and intimacy is different but the patterns often share a similar root: disconnection from self, shame around desire and nervous system overwhelm.
This work helps you unravel the layers that keep you looping, numbing or endlessly searching so you can finally experience sex as something that expands and nourishes you.
Here’s what this process can support you to shift and heal:
Psychological & Emotional
Breaking cycles of compulsive or addictive sexual behaviour
Healing shame, guilt and fear around sex, pleasure and intimacy
Releasing anxiety, stress and depression related to sexual identity or performance
Developing confidence and clarity about what you truly want and need sexually
Physical & Somatic
Reconnecting to your body and its full range of sensation
Restoring libido balance (from lost desire to overdrive)
Healing erectile issues, premature ejaculation and orgasmic blocks
Learning embodied tools for presence, regulation and pleasure
Energetic & Spiritual
Reclaiming erotic energy as a source of power, creativity and connection
Working consciously with porn, fantasy and desire as portals to self-understanding
Rewiring your relationship to sex as something sacred, playful and free
Building deeper intimacy and authentic connection with yourself and others
Next Steps
Ready to begin your Erotic Evolution?
I’m just a click away ready to talk openly and honestly about where you are, what you’re struggling with and how I might be able to help.
Use the button below to book a Connection Call with me.
We’ll explore what’s happening for you, what’s possible, and whether this work feels right for you.
If I’m confident I can support your goals, I’ll share what the next steps look like.
And if not, I’ll happily point you in a direction that serves you better.
Sound good?
Start your
Erotic Evolution
Book a free Connection Call to discover if working with me is the right next move for you. No sleazy sales calls. An alive, honest chat about where you’re at and what you want to achieve.
Or just reach out to say hi or ask any questions you have about the Erotic Evolution.